What’s Self Love Got To Do With It?

Self love, what is it? It’s definitely a term we cannot get enough of. Self Love is tossed around very often in our everyday conversations. "You have to love yourself more." "Why don't you love yourself?" "If you only loved yourself, this wouldn't have happened to you." "You can't love another person until you love yourself first." We have self love advocates and self love guru’s. There are many writers and social media influencers, including myself, who have their own prescriptions for walking in self love! With all the information and pioneers of such a healthy movement, why aren’t we doing it. Why aren’t we loving ourselves more?! Have we been overly obsessed with looking like we love ourselves than actually loving ourselves? Yep! You got it! 

Our need to belong to something is strong. It’s important that we feel attachment to something we believe is moving us forward, which is understandably why many of us have attached to the self love movement but have yet to join the movement and become a catalyst for self love and igniting a powerful change! Oh yes, babe, there is a difference! Well how can I be a catalyst for self love, Chassidy? I’m glad you asked! (I was hoping you asked! Please say you asked?!?! Okay, great!!)

You become a catalyst for self love by fulfilling what it really means! Many people believe that self love is a feeling. Self love influences how we treat ourselves, who we choose as friends and long term love interests, and other very heavy decisions to push us forward into fulfilling lives! Something that holds that much weight has to be much more than how I am feeling, which we all know can vary day to day! Self love is a recurring and ongoing appreciation of who we are, who we were and who we are striving to be. Self love is more than words and quotes that sound good. 

Self love is not something you can buy? You can read books, attend seminars and subscribe to tons of podcasts. While those things will make you feel good, self love is going to come from YOU! 

Self Love has to be developed and never ending. It must become as necessary of a behavior as brushing your teeth and drinking water! You do that daily, right?! (You better!!) You NEED to show yourself love and appreciation! There should never become a moment when you say “I think I can stop loving myself now” instead you should find yourself saying “what can I do to show myself love and appreciation TODAY?!” People are awesome humans and while validation from others is a great feeling, that should be a BONUS to your life, not a need! Learn to validate yourself first, before all others. Loving you first doesn’t mean you’re selfish, it’s actually the exact opposite! It says I cannot pour into anything or anyone if my cup is empty! When my cup is constantly full, I can give and love others how they need to be loved without ignoring my needs! Feel me? Everyone has their own prescriptions and 5 steps to self love, but again, self love is self medication! YOU determine what it is that you need! Whether that’s positive affirmations, solo dates with yourself, eating better, removing certain people from your space; whatever it is YOU need to excel and live your best life EVER! You deserve it!! 

What are you going to do in this moment to show love and appreciation to yourself? Post in the comments!! I wanna know! Let’s help each other!! ❤️